It's not easy burying the one you love. You, dear widow, may feel like you just can't make it without Him by your side. But, I am here to tell you, you can and you will. If I can do it, so can you.
Here are my three tips to get you through your grief process:
1. Expect the unexpected - This is important. So listen carefully. Whenever someone says something that causes you pain (and they will, I know) or, when that grief trigger hits (and it will, I promise), take one giant step back, inhale deeply, exhale. Do it again. Do it often. The act of deep breathing will help soothe and calm your raw nerves. And, it will act as a distraction as you work through your pain.
After that, whip out a pen and notebook (make certain to carry those two things with you everywhere you go) and write your feelings down. Putting your thoughts on paper before you open your mouth will help your brain wrap itself around the fact that your man is never coming back. And it may prevent you from saying or speaking unkindly to someone who simply doesn't understand, and probably never will. Of course, there will be those obtuse nosy, individuals who will need to be gently put in his/her place. But, until you are better in tune with your feelings, walk softly and carry a big pen.
2. Be prepared for anything/for everything/for nothing - You will have good days. These are the days you are able to work through your grief and can hold your head high. You will have bad days. These are the days you can't stop crying and you just want to pull the covers over your head and not get out of bed. And, there will be days in between. One minute, up; next minute, down. Relax. Go back to Tip #1.
3. Give yourself permission to grieve - Adjusting to life without Him by your side is difficult. There is no right way, no wrong way to mourn the best friend you ever had. There is only your way.
4. Reach out and touch someone - Don't be afraid to reach out to a counselor, a rabbi, a minister, or priest for advice and guidance.
Okay. That's more than 3 tips. But like I said in Tip #1, expect the unexpected.
It's not easy losing your soul mate. I know. But if you follow my tips outlined above, you will make it through. If I can do it, so can you.
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Linda Della Donna is a widow and freelance writer who supports individuals going through the grief process. You can learn more about Della Donna by visiting her website, http://www.griefcase.net and her blog, http://www.griefcase.blogspot.com. Feel free to email Della Donna at griefcasenet@gmail.com for a copy of her free ebook, "Treasury of Quotations."
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